Much of Wong’s stand-up comedy material in her hit specials Baby Cobra, Hard Knock Wife, Don Wong, and Single Lady, has dealt with her experiences as a wife—then divorcée—and mother. She is mother to daughters Mari, 10, and Nikki, 8 with ex-husband Justin Hakuta They announced their plans to divorce after eight years of marriage in 2022, and Wong described their current relationship status as “best friends” and their divorce as “unconventional.” At the 2024 Golden Globes, after collecting a congratulatory kiss from Hader on her way up to the stage, Wong thanked Hakuta by name from the podium.
Hader has three daughters, whom he shares with ex-wife Maggie Carey. Hader and Carey announced their divorce in March 2018.
In Single Lady, which premiered on Netflix in October 2024 after being filmed at her stand-up tour of the same name, Wong described how a man—revealed to be Hader later in the set—had wooed and pursued her, leading to her ultimately shedding that single lady status.
In the special, she recalled Hader’s initial approach, recounting Hader saying, “Hey, Ali. I just happened to hear the news of your divorce today, and I gotta tell you…I’m excited. I am, Ali, because, look, I have had a crush on you forever, and I actually told my best friend years ago that you were my dream girl. And I know this sounds crazy, but, uh, I want you to be my girlfriend.”
Some time, many escalatingly large bouquets, and a sprinkling of debate over whether Hader’s persistence and attention made him sweet (her female friends’ take) or a psychopath (the male opinion, she said), she succumbed to his charms.
“I did fall in love again,” she shared at the end of her set. “Some of you might know who the guy is. And it just so happens to be the man who sent me all of those flowers in Europe.”
