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When you’re in a relationship with someone, treating sex as a hobby that you enjoy together is a fabulous way to maintain connection and keep things interesting – I believe this very strongly and I know I bang on about it a lot here. Rarely do I get such a perfect, horny, beautiful example of this than in today’s amazing guest blog, though. When the writer first messaged me to tell me he writes porn for an enthusiastic audience of one, I nearly fell off my chair with excitement before immediately asking him to send me a guest blog about it. Please welcome today’s anonymous writer, who is here to tell you about the joy and satisfaction of writing porn for his wife.
Why I write porn for my wife
I write porn exclusively for my wife. Sometimes I also record it as audio.
Like many couples, my wife and I send naughty texts to each other and have for many years. We started when our kids were younger and it was, I guess, a way to stay sexually connected when all we were doing for 95% of the day was working, cooking and cleaning.
I think for both of us, but definitely myself, it then became a way of me expressing things about my sexuality that I couldn’t bring myself to talk about face to face – fantasies, requests etc… sometimes we would explore them further in conversation, sometimes just putting the thought out there. I love having these conversations. My brain gets so switched on and it builds incredible anticipation.
Because the words prompt imagination, and they are written and read in isolation, they explore places that photos can’t. As a result, we have explored many facets of our sexuality we never would have because we’ve found a way of openly expressing our desires on (digital) paper. Sometimes it’s led to something entirely different than originally intended – which in itself is unbelievably exciting.
She wrote back to me once to tell me that reading my texts had made her so wet at work that she wished she had a change of pants. This made me very very happy and very horny. I once had a wank in a train toilet because our conversation had got me so hot I basically had to!
In fact it was during that to-and-fro that I promised to write a full blown (wahey!) story.
The first one was just my all-time favourite fantasy. I’d imagined it for years and it was incredible to write about something I’ve imagined for so long but never expressed in detail to anyone ever. Her reaction to it was even more amazing because she loved the idea entirely and I can now confirm that I have lived out that fantasy a number of times with my super hot sexy wife and in fact sometimes she has initiated it without prompting (which is just insanely cool).
I have written a fair few of them now. Three of which have become audio just using voice notes on my phone and a cheap mic. Since that first one, I have needed no encouragement. If I have an hour where nothing is happening or I’ve been daydreaming about her that day, I’ll write one. Sometimes if I have less time I’ll just sketch an idea for another day. I often reveal to her that I’m working on one and/or have completed one. That way she can anticipate it and I’ll wait to send it until she requests it so it always arrives when she’s in the mood to read it (one got sent I unrequested and caught her at a bad time. I was then disappointed she didn’t receive it with the enthusiasm I’d hoped for).
Sometimes she’s mentioned things she’d like to try so I’ve built a story around it. I’ll often exaggerate the idea and we learn where our actual level is. It’s actually quite easy to discuss it in bed when I’ve already written it and she’s read it. Sometimes my mind will have wandered off into a parallel fantasy and a new thing is unlocked. Sometimes we just laugh about a section, I chuckle and admit I may have gotten carried away and we move on but the magic is that it’s been discussed/proposed and we’ve either approved/binned it.
The other unforeseen consequence of our texts for me is, I’ve been so much more honest and expressive about just how fucking smoking hot I think my wife is. It’s made me observe her body and describe it in ways I’d never have done without going through this process. I’ve come to admire it, and often crave it. It’s incredible.
My obvious obsession and adulation has made her feel way more confident in bed and able to be truthful about her desires. I’ve learned so much about her, deeply personal stuff and that in itself is very sexy to me. This has then reflected back and so I also now feel able to really be me and say what I like and want. It’s an awesome feedback loop!
So why do I write porn from my wife? Well we’re both more confident. We have both lived the sexual fantasies irl that we’ve harboured for years and hadn’t told anyone about. We’re still finding new things to enjoy and new ways to make each other cum.
I’m more in love with her today than I’ve ever been in love with anyone.
Oh, and I’m better at writing (I think).
