Right off the bat, what is a thrusting blowjob? Well, we’ve used this term as it’s way more PG than saying face fvcking or skull fvcking, but essentially, it’s a specific style of blowjob where the receiving partner takes active control of the movement and depth instead of the giver.
And while this may seem similar to deepthroating (and there are many similarities) it isn’t actually the same thing. Additionally, a thrusting blowjob has distinct differences from a regular blowjob.
Today, we’ll look at the differences between a thrusting blowjob, deepthroating, and a regular blowjob, why both partners may enjoy giving a thrusting blowjob, and a how-to guide for the giver who is eager to give their partner the best thrusting blowjob ever.
What’s the Difference Between a Thrusting Blowjob, Deepthroating & a Regular Blowjob?
While all three overlap, the core distinction comes down to who controls the movement, depth, intensity, and dynamic.
During a thrusting blowjob, the receiver will control the pace and depth by actively thrusting their hips or pulling/controlling their partner’s head. The depth can vary from mild to full-on, with emphasis being on repeated thrusts rather than maximum depth every time.
Usually this technique is quite aggressive, sometimes done in a rhythm, and oftentimes the giver’s mouth is more seen as a ‘hole’. The intensity is high, usually leaving the receiver to gag, drool, or experience watering eyes (which is often part of the appeal).
Some other common elements can include hair grabbing, head holding, and getting wet and messy. This kind of blowjob style might be appealing for those who are into dominance/submissive roles, roughness, or aggressive oral sex.
During deepthroat, the giver often has control over the pace and depth, as they can choose how deep they want to go (which usually includes the full shaft and penis head, passing into the throat).
With deepthroating, the giver’s head bobs deeply, and they’ll focus on relaxing the throat as in to take in more length. It’s usually a high intensity activity as it can trigger gagging, drooling, and tears for the giver, and a different, stronger sensation for the receiver.
During a ‘normal’ blowjob, it’s usually the giver who controls the pace and depth, which may not be too deep (mid-shaft).
During a normal blowjob, the giver will bob their head, lick, suck, swirl their tongue, and/or use hand strokes on the shaft and the base, depending on their technique. The intensity can go from gentle, sensual, or teasing, to sloppy or more intense, and some common elements include eye contact, hands being used, and a buildup to orgasm.
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Why Do Some Enjoy Giving Thrusting Blowjobs?
We all like what we like. And so there are a few valid reasons why people enjoy giving thrusting blowjobs. For some, there are psychological, emotional, and sometimes physical rewards.
Submission & Surrender
This kind of sexual activity is a power exchange, at heart. For the giver, allowing their partner to take full control by thrusting their hips, holding their head, and setting the pace and depth, can give off a feeling of surrender and pleasure. For others who enjoy degradation, they may derive sexual bliss from being reduced to a “hole” for someone’s sexual satisfaction. At the same time, this kind of degradation is still consensual, making it a way in which to feel “used” without any real harm.
Feeling Desired
The receiver may feel completely overwhelmed with lust that the way they respond to a thrusting blowjob could make the giver feel desired and powerfully wanted. The receiver’s urgency, moans, grips, and possible loss of restraint could signal that they want the giver so badly that they just can’t contain themselves. When a giver feels their partner in ecstasy, it can give them a huge rush.
Emotional High
To give someone a thrusting blowjob could be seen as an act of total service or devotion, which can lead the giver to feel an emotional or psychological high. “I’m giving everything to make them feel good.”.
Taboo Factor
With the element of roughness, messiness, and the fact that it’s seen as degrading or aggressive, giving a thrusting blowjob could be seen as a taboo or engaging in something naughty. It’s raw, primal, and unfiltered. This alone can affect someone’s libido.
Physical Sensations
Some who give thrusting blowjobs might enjoy the fullness that they feel in their mouth, the rhythm of being “penetrated” elsewhere, or they may even feel a slightly meditative effect as a relaxed throat. Plus, having trust can give off a flow-like state for some experienced givers. Additionally, endorphins are released when someone is in mild discomfort, which is the happy hormone.
How to Give Your Partner an Exceptional Thrusting Blowjob
Communication & Consent
It goes without saying that before anything, or anyone, goes down (pardon the pun), communication and consent is a must. You could ask them what they like: shallow vs. deep, slow vs. fast, how much control they want, and any no-go zones. Then, you can discuss a safe signal. For example, a non-verbal cue like tapping their thigh twice to indicate that you’re uncomfortable or want to stop.
Choose your position
The right angle can make or break the experience. Some of the best position for giving a thrusting blowjob includes:
- Lying back with your head off the bed: this means that your throat will be straight so that your partner can stand or kneel in front of you. In this position, everything is aligned so that the thrusting will feel smoother, and it’ll allow for deeper thrusting if desired. It’s also a great position for your partner to control their rhythm.
- Your partner lying on their back: you’ll be on your side with your head resting on their lower stomach/hip area while taking them in your mouth. In this way, they can gently thrust upward into your mouth while you stay mostly still all the while giving you more control on the depth and your partner control of the speed.
- You kneeling/them standing: this is a classic position, and involves you on your knees with your partner in front of you, holding your head and thrusting. You can keep your hands on their thighs/hips to guide the pace, if you’d like.
Techniques
- Warm up: Start slowly by licking the shaft/base first by circling the head with your tongue. You could take the tip in and suck gently, then do a hand and mouth combo which entails hand stroking the bottom 2/3rds of the shaft while the mouth works on the top 1/3. Take this time to build wetness and arousal.
- Use lube: Saliva is good, but using a lube (even a flavoured lube if you’d like) makes everything glide better… especially if thrusting gets vigorous. Do avoid numbing products as they’ll reduce pleasure for both partners.
- Protect your teeth & control depth: Do the -lips over teeth in a soft “O”- technique to protect your teeth. To control depth, you can use your hand at the base as a “stop” in order to limit depth until you’re ready. Relax your throat and breathe through your nose.
- Build the thrusting rhythm: As we mentioned, start slow and shallow (they thrust gently while you suck/lick), then gradually increase your speed/depth as arousal builds. You can mix patterns if you’d like such as 9 shallow and 1 deep, or slow deep holds and quick shallow pumps. Add suction on the out-stroke for extra intensity.
- Hand & mouth synergy: During thrusting, wrap your hand around the base and twist/stroke in time with their motion, as it stimulates deeper penetration and adds friction.
- Extra hotspots: Some additional tips include pressing your tongue flat against the underside of their shaft, swirling your tongue around the head on each out-stroke, and/or gently playing with their balls or perineum if they like it.
- Finish strong: Before you give your partner a thrusting blowjob, ask them where they’d like to finish. If they’d like to keep thrusting through orgasm, then they can do that if agreed. Or, they may want to switch and finish elsewhere.
Some additional tips? Jaw fatigue is real, so take breaks, use your hands more, or switch positions if you’re not feeling comfortable. Also, having a gag reflex is normal. In fact, some men like it. But, if you’d like to work on it, you could practice relaxing, breathing through the nose, and starting shallow. Then, never force depth or speed… the aim is enthusiasm and enjoyment.
Ultimately, giving a thrusting blowjob is a success when both of you feel excited and connected. Enthusiasm plus paying attention to their reactions beats any “perfect technique” every time.
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