This year is predicted to be the year of the broken taboo, particularly as it pertains to the exploration of anal pleasure. Outdated stigmas are being shed as we shift toward a more inclusive cultural space. Our fans have been vocal in asking about all types of pleasure, and we’ve seen a significant surge in inquiries regarding rimming.
Below, we shed light on this oral skill, explain what a rim job is, and provide essential safety and technique tips.
What Is Rimming?
Formally known as anilingus (sometimes spelled ‘analingus’), rimming is the oral stimulation of the moving parts of the anus.
This area of the body is densely packed with nerve endings. Because the anus and the pelvic floor are connected to the same nerve roots as the genitals, the gentle pressure of lips and tongue combined with saliva can be extremely enjoyable for people of all genders.
While the concept might seem modern, it is an ancient practice. Just as fellatio and cunnilingus were once considered taboo well into the 20th century, anilingus is simply another way to explore the body’s erogenous zones. Whether you enjoy the “naughty” psychological thrill of the act or simply love the physical sensation, it is a valid and healthy part of a consensual sex life.
Health, Hygiene, and Safety
We can’t talk about rimming without first addressing the health risks. While the risk of HIV transmission is extremely low, other infections can be passed through fecal-oral contact.
Understanding the Risks
All STIs that can be spread through traditional oral sex (like herpes, syphilis, and gonorrhea) can be spread through anilingus. However, rimming carries specific risks for:
- Hepatitis A, B, and C
- Intestinal parasites (like Giardia or Cryptosporidium)
- Bacterial infections (like E. coli or Salmonella)
Preparing for Anilingus
- Communication: Never surprise a partner with this act. Discuss boundaries and comfort levels beforehand.
- Cleanliness: Precede sex with a thorough but gentle washing of the perineum and anal region with mild soap. Avoid internal douching or vigorous scrubbing, as micro-tears in the delicate tissue can increase the chance of infection.
- Barrier Protection: The gold standard for safe rimming is a dental dam. If you don’t have one, you can cut a non-lubricated condom vertically to create a latex square. This prevents direct contact with bacteria while still allowing for sensation.
- Follow Up: If either partner has an active cold sore, a cut in the mouth, or any irritation/hemorrhoids in the anal region, put the act on hold until fully healed.
How To Give a Great Rim Job: Techniques
If you are ready to try anilingus, start slow and follow these steps to ensure a pleasurable experience for your partner.
1. External Stimulation Warm Up
Start by exploring the surrounding areas. Lick the perineum (often called the taint), which is the space between the genitals and the anus. This area is highly sensitive and can often handle more tongue pressure than the anus itself. Use your fingers to caress the butt and thighs to build anticipation.
2. Shallow Stimulation
Bring the wetted tip of your tongue to the anal opening. Use swirling, circular, or up-and-down motions. Experiment with “flat” tongue licks versus a “pointed” tongue tip. Listen to your partner’s breath and moans to gauge what pressure they prefer.
3. Deep Stimulation and Penetration
If your partner is relaxed, you can try shallow penetration by inserting the tip of the tongue slightly into the sphincter. For deeper stimulation, large circular motions work best.
Pro Tip: Incorporate “booty breathing.” Encourage the receiver to take deep breaths and “push” slightly (as if having a bowel movement) to relax the external sphincter muscles, making penetration easier and more comfortable.
The Best Rimming Positions
While a “69” allows for mutual pleasure, it can be physically awkward for beginners. Try these positions for better access:
Doggy Style
The receiver stays on all fours. This provides the giver with a clear view and easy access while leaving the receiver’s hands free for self-stimulation.
The Pillow Prop
The receiver lies on their back with pillows propped under their hips and their legs pulled toward their chest (Happy Baby pose).
Standing Bent-Over
The receiver leans over a bed or sturdy table. This is often the most comfortable height for the giver to remain standing or kneeling.
Enhancing the Experience
Rimming is rarely a standalone act; it is most effective when paired with other sensations.
- Manual Stimulation: Reach around to stimulate the clitoris or penis while performing anilingus.
- Temperature Play: Sip ice-cold water or tea before giving a rim job to provide a “temperature shock” sensation.
- Lubrication: If you aren’t using a dental dam, a small amount of flavored, water-based lubricant can enhance the glide.
For general anal masturbation tips, check out this article.
By prioritizing communication and hygiene, you can transform the taboo of rimming into a powerful tool for intimacy. Exploring anilingus with a spirit of playfulness is the perfect way to unlock new sensations.
